Monday, March 30, 2009

A Cobweb Of Memories...

What's an acceptable timeframe for letting go of an old memory? A day for a one-night tryst? A weekend for a bad week at work? Two years for a broken heart? Five years for all the battles of college? A decade for teenage crushes and whippings at school?

I have always found it weird when people start reminiscing about the good old days. When the stories of the days of yore begin, my mind starts wandering away. Now, don't get me wrong. I am not a cruel, heartless wretch with ice-water running through my veins. But all my memories are locked up in my head for me to go back and agonize or revel over when I am day-dreaming. (A technical question here: Is it really day-dreaming if you are thinking about stuff from the past? Or are day-dreams meant only for the future?)

Is it just a male thing to trade battle stories over and over again? The stories of teenage crush, the college fights, the office hottie from their previous company? This is really strange, coz women are generally perceived to be the ones who have elephantine memories and can remember minute details like the color of their guy's shirt on their first date! I am trying to recall when I have sat with my female friends and spent the whole day laughing over school/college/office adventures. Ok so all my office buddies were male so that crosses itself out. My college days were pretty non-happening and tame. And it seems really childish to go back to the memories from school years; everything seems so ancient that even the memories are in technicolor!

Eeeks, so where does that leave me? Most probably, sitting on a couch, surrounded by other people's memories! Oh well, serves me right for not holding on to any of my own, I guess...

10 comments:

Amit Gardharia said...
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A New Beginning said...

Good one!Some memories leave us zapped while at times theres nothing to remember:)That's life, have to stir it well from time to time to actually enjoy its flavour. Happy blogging!:)

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Koyeli said...

I somehow find your views a bit strange. We do have memories, some good and some not so good. But the only difference is some people remember and talk about their old days and some want to keep them off. But at some point of time we do remember our past.

Rambler said...

@Amit
I searched my entire post to see where I have said that people cannot sit and remember the good old days! Don't take it personally ;-)

@A New Beginning
Yup,some memories just stick with you forever, some you are desperate to get rid of!

@Koyeli
Yea, it may be strange for some, but then I am weird when it comes to reminiscing about the past! I am generally too busy catching with friends on what they are doing currently, to sit and talk about the good old days!

Anonymous said...

you tried to create a cobweb in your post and you succeeded. This is not a lie but yah 5 readings and am still going through the post. the first two para's are clear in showing how you deal with your memories but in the last 2 para you move away from your initial view and look confused,shall i call this your cobweb,i don't know.but yah you remain true to your topic.....:)))

Rambler said...

@Anonymous
Well well, am glad someone is reading my blog more than I do :-). Ya, i guess this post is a bit confusing..But it was targeted to rile up one person in particular..Too bad you got caught in the cross-fire :-)

Anonymous said...

well i am a true reader!!!:)))

Anonymous said...

Amit seems to have recieved a Jab by your post.... Nicely Put...

could it be possible that you feel so because you are often dragged into reminisces of others and at that time you dont have much to say?

I feel its the pent up frustrations of such gatherings that induced you to write this one. Because I am pretty sure you do remember the times when you had coffee with your bestfriend for the first time and had to stay awake all night and eye bags the very next day, the first time you said something idiot like how do you get Ice inside the bottle???

There are way to many such events inside but just that you dont bring it up more often and not with just anybody and everybody.. Just few times with really close friends with and around whom these incidents took place...

Coz a chatter pox like you would have nothing to talk about if you ended your talks just talking about the present. ;-)

Rambler said...

@Anonymous
Ya I guess what you are saying is true. I still smile when I think of those memories.Maybe I miss those days so much that I don't wanna bring them up.It's easier to think of oneself as a cold hearted person than to give in.
Oh damn you, for seeing thru me :-(

Anonymous said...

lol... thats wat best friends are for!!!

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